Let me start by saying that these books have changed my life. My mom was recently diagnosed with cancer for the second time. In this time I struggled with learning the meaning behind birth, death and the time in between. I felt like I was really missing the point entirely. I couldn’t tell you how many times I questioned God “why ME?!”on the bathroom floor at 2 am like a pathetic 1st world citizen, during this time, I even questioned “is there even a God?”. I was deeply saddened but confusingly, I found myself more dumbfounded. I stopped not only blogging but I felt like I stopped my life in a way. I didn’t feel like I was moving forward or back, I just felt like all summer I just kinda stayed the same. Mentally and spiritually I was a slave to myself, I was trapped in my own thoughts wondering the about the inner workings of the universe. I felt like I was carrying the weight of everyones sorrows on my shoulders. I tried my hardest to be understanding of my friends problems, but to me they seemed so minimal. I would love to have their “problems. My once compassionate self became resentful and annoyed. That of course was on the inside, on the outside I was caring for everyone else more than ever. Let me be clear on this, I LOVE CARING FOR THE PEOPLE I LOVE. Although, I quickly learned that I wasn’t going to be able to give them the care they needed or deserved if I wasn’t in the correct state of mind, which I was far from. So, instead of muddling in my sorrow I decided it was time to grow up and help myself. So, I started reading.
Eat, Pray, Love – This is the book I started with. I was too young with the whirlwind of this book was happening and to be honest, I don’t think I’d fully appreciate it if I had read it sooner. Eat, Pray, Love is about a woman’s journey of finding herself. She drops her life as a New York City wife to explore the world. She travels to Italy for 4 months, India for 4 months and Bali for 4 months. Along the way, she meets amazing people who teach her about the true meaning of life. Its also very helpful for women who are lost spiritually, I blame this book for my new obsession of yoga.
Milk & Honey – CHILLS. God, I love a good poem. Milk and Honey is AHHH-Mazing for the young girl going through a break-up or any other shit that happens in life. After you take the 20 minutes it takes to read, its a perfect coffee table book. I often go back and reread this book, it feels like the poems have new meaning every time.
Why Men Love B*tches – Yes, of course I added this book. No, it’s not talking about being the typical, pop-culture def of bitch but rather something else, a new meaning of the word. Basically, it’s “learn how to hold your own and not give up who you are for a man”. I really love the part of the book where she explains why men love “the hunt” so much. She states that men will go into the forest, sleep on the ground for 5 days to shoot and kill a deer but, if you drag the SAME dead deer to his doorstep he won’t want it. Men love the chase. Besides, it’s 2017 and women should be in control of there lives without being walked on but if you show that you’re willing to get walked on, you will. *shrug* But, hey, if thats the kinda woman you want to be then who am I to stop ya?
You are a Badass – This book is what you want to read if you doubt yourself. For me, this time in my life made me seriously doubt who I was and what I was capable of. I felt weak and like I was some how behind all of my peers. I felt like my successes in life weren’t that great (Ya, I know… seriously Liz? We get it with the self pity). This book made me stop doing that, it made me feel who I was and what I was worth. Kinda like a Tony Robbins book. YOU CAN DO IT.
The Princess Saves Herself in This One – Another amazing poetry book. It is very empowering and is so extremely relatable! Make sure you leave this one on the coffee table so when guys come over, they know who they are dealing with. 😉
With Love, Elizabeth Ashley